You don’t die from snake bites. Snake bites don’t kill you…
Because it is not the bite from a snake that kills you, nor is it the snake itself; it is the venom that kills.
And much like the venom starts to circulate into the body and enter the organs, anger does the same thing.
We get bitten all the time, metaphorically speaking. Just think to the last time you’ve had an encounter with a rude coworker or customer, or just had a rough day with your significant other. They may have said something that hurt you, either intentionally or not. And then it happens.
And it is not the bite that actually hurts. It is the venom. It is the hatred and anger that kills. Until you get rid of that venom, it will destroy you. This great metaphor was shared by Wayne Dyer, a great author and speaker. Hear his conversation with Tony Robbins here.
There is a great story I would like to share regarding anger:
“An old monk and a young monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a very young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her cross to the other side.
The two monks glanced at one another because they had taken vows not to touch a woman.
Then, without a word, the older monk picked up the woman, carried her across the river, placed her gently on the other side, and carried on his journey.
The younger monk couldn’t believe what had just happened. After rejoining his companion, he was speechless, and an hour passed without a word between them.
Two more hours passed, then three, finally the younger monk could contain himself any longer, and blurted out “As monks, we are NOT permitted a woman, how could you then carry that woman on your shoulders!?”
The older monk looked at him and replied, “Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river, why are you still carrying her?”
This simple Zen story has a beautiful message about living in the present moment. How often do we carry around past hurts, holding onto resentments when the only person we are really hurting is ourselves.
We all go through rough times in life. People say hurtful things to us. Many times, we revisit and replay those memories and allow the venom to circulate within us. In the end, it weights us down and destroys our energy. Instead, we can let go of what doesn’t support us and find relief. We can find that we don’t have to allow the venom to stay. And we can bring ourselves to a level of awareness, peace, and happiness within the present moment.
Zen story from http://www.kindspring.org/story/view.php?sid=63753